{"id":925,"date":"2017-02-19T11:05:51","date_gmt":"2017-02-19T16:05:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lisa.rushworth.us\/?p=925"},"modified":"2017-02-19T11:05:51","modified_gmt":"2017-02-19T16:05:51","slug":"dont-talk-to-strangers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/?p=925","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Talk To Strangers"},"content":{"rendered":"

It was 68 degrees, and I took Anya to the beach by a local lake to build sand castles. Three different kids, with three different families, wandered up to us and started playing. I said ‘hi’ to each one, and got a funny look. Each kid spent around fifteen minutes playing with us without saying a word. It was\u00a0really<\/em> strange. Until I heard the horrified mother admonishing her kid as they walked away: “you know not to talk to strangers, what were you\u00a0doing<\/em>?”. Here’s a guess – he wasn’t\u00a0talking<\/em> to strangers. Playing with, yes. Walking around on the beach with, yes. But he dutifully avoided talking.<\/p>\n

Kids process language literally. It’s funny, sometimes, what Anya\u00a0doesn’t<\/em> get because figurative and abstract reasoning are not well developed in four year old kids. I’ve heard the don’t get into a car with a stranger \/ don’t talk to strangers\/ STRANGER DANGER!!!! through most of its evolution from perfectly reasonable advice (seriously, don’t GO somewhere with a stranger. I remember trying to convey this to friends when I was at University – go to a club, meet a cute guy,\u00a0don’t<\/em> go somewhere alone with him. It isn’t like this is advice merely for young kids.) to absolute paranoia (kid lost in the woods who spent his time\u00a0hiding<\/em> from the strange people who had volunteered to search the woods looking for the missing child).\u00a0Until yesterday, it never occurred to me how children process these messages (and I’m not talking about the whole “living in fear of seven billion people” thing that’s got to have psychological ramifications).<\/p>\n

I don’t know how we’ll convey an appropriate level of caution to Anya – “don’t go anywhere with a stranger” is a good first step. Especially now that most people carry cell phones – know your phone number and have them call us. Don’t go anywhere, we’ll come to you.<\/p>\n

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