{"id":624,"date":"2016-11-11T16:12:26","date_gmt":"2016-11-11T21:12:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lisa.rushworth.us\/?p=624"},"modified":"2016-11-11T16:12:26","modified_gmt":"2016-11-11T21:12:26","slug":"introvert-extrovert-and-somewhere-inbetween","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/?p=624","title":{"rendered":"Introvert, Extrovert, And Somewhere Inbetween"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve found myself researching how introverts deal with raising an extroverted child. I have no idea how that combination manages. I am not a introvert. I abhorred quiet – my office space was\u00a0silent<\/em> most of the day, and I would blast music so I could concentrate. Living alone, my house was quiet — I’d go out with friends after work,\u00a0come home and turn on music or ring someone up to chat. I got enough quiet in\u00a0half an hour before bed and a dozen quick walks (outside for the mail, across the car park at the office, etc) to be happy.<\/p>\n

Living with another adult reduced\u00a0some<\/em> of the quiet times, but not enough that I minded. Having a young child, however, has almost completely eliminated quiet from my life. Relatives purchase\u00a0loud<\/em> toys — and laugh about it, knowing exactly how much the kid is going to adore creating cacophony. I feel bad about taking away a beloved toy (or ripping the batteries out of the damn thing), but seriously the ONLY time Anya isn’t talking … she’s got some toy blaring, or the TV is on, or there is some other assault on my ears.<\/p>\n

She’s had a few experiences with boys at the playground who were a few years older than her, and VERY rough in their play. She hates it – to the point she’s happy to leave the playground. I’ve tried explaining to her that\u00a0those boys were putting out a lot more energy than she wanted to deal with. And I feel the same way about her sometimes — I see that you are having fun, but it’s just TOO MUCH. She gets it, and then turns\u00a0on one of the singing race cars.<\/p>\n

I found a lot of articles \/ blogs \/ etc from the standpoint of an extroverted parent trying to raise an introverted child — but an adult has the capacity for abstract thought. You\u00a0can<\/em> be quiet for someone else. An almost four year old … not so much. My mom used to have enforced quiet – turn off the lights, fire up a few candles, and just relax. Hated it to the point that I, twenty-five years later, cannot imagine forcing such horror on our child … no matter how practical the solution might be. Unfortunately the only other solution I can see is being somewhere else for a few hours each week.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I’ve found myself researching how introverts deal with raising an extroverted child. I have no idea how that combination manages. I am not a introvert. I abhorred quiet – my office space was\u00a0silent most of the day, and I would blast music so I could concentrate. Living alone, my house was quiet — I’d go …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[24],"class_list":["post-624","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-miscellaneous","tag-random"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/624","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=624"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/624\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":625,"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/624\/revisions\/625"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=624"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=624"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rushworth.us\/lisa\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=624"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}